How would you act if you knew you were an emissary of love?
Wouldn’t it truly feel good?
We probably find it easy to be an emissary of love when things are going our way.
But the test of love, of kindness, and of character is how we act when things are not the way we want them.
There is an old proverb that says when we take care of the small things the large things have a way of sorting themselves out.
So when we are in a state of irritation or upset over something, large or small, how do we maintain an attitude of kindness, to ourselves and others?
I have found the most loving thing I can do is to notice what is taking place within my heart and mind at this moment.
For whatever is in the heart flows out to the entire universe. For heart/mind is energy, and there are no boundaries that can contain this energy.
Energy spreads in infinite ways, permeating everything.
So start where we really live—in our mind. We can begin to listen to our own attitudes, our inner dialogue.
What are we saying and feeling in our heart? In order to know we need to listen inwardly—in the silence. Turn off the TV, the radio—even the music we enjoy so much.
What are these inner voices saying?
The way we speak to ourselves sets the pattern for speaking and acting toward others. It is impossible to be more loving to others than we are to ourselves.
We can only give to others as much love as we feel inside us.
Which is why it is vital to listen to the inner voices with gentleness and mercy!
What is our true motivation underneath these attitudes?
When we note our feelings, emotions and thoughts, we don’t need to act them out. We can decide if it will bring more love into the world or more harm.
Wow – this is a place of power! Here is where we have choice.
We do not need to act out our feelings or thoughts. Compulsivity lessens as consciousness increases.
What is the outcome we desire? Will this be beneficial or will it harm someone? What are we trying to prove?
How do we speak to ourselves and about others? Is it kind?
Words are very powerful. Our words need to be chosen with care.
We can begin a practice of skillful speech with these three useful guidelines:
1) Is it kind?
2) Is it true?
3) Is it useful? In other words, is it timely and appropriate for the moment? Will it be heard at this time, or in this way? Otherwise they are not very useful.
These questions help us evaluate how helpful our words are.
Are we being an emissary of love? Or are we “butting in” and trying to tell others how to live? How much do we project onto others? How much are we really trying to manipulate?
Right now what are the thoughts that arise in your mind?
Are they kind? True?
And how is truthfulness measured?
Facts may be accurate, but how much truth do they contain?
We may have failed at something, but that doesn’t make us a failure.
Pema Chodrin has a new book out with a great title: Fail Fail Again Fail Better.
It is only through our so called failures that we can learn how to correct our course.
We can only learn from our mistakes by first admitting them.
What is success? And what is failure? Do we know? It may be time to reevaluate what we call success and what we deem failure.
Failure may be the loss of something, but it will provide ultimate gain when we are willing to learn from it, rather than judge it—condemning ourselves and blaming others.
Yes, losses will turn into gain when we truly realize that we have done the best we knew at the moment, and are willing to let lovingkindness rise within us. This is compassion. This develops strength and confidence.
All outer losses contribute to inner gains. For that is what the energy of love does.
Love is the energy that trumps every adversary, dissolving all that has been into something more beautiful.
When we can gracefully let go of what we thought should have happened and place our lives into the hands of something higher, deeper and greater—even when we think we are losing the battle or seem to be losing control of a situation—we are doing the best we can.
This is the process of surrendering to the Higher Power.
This practice allows us to release tightly held opinions and judgments which opens the way for wisdom to arise.
Do no harm. When this is our intention we will pause before we speak or act, and then choose words that are kind, truthful and appropriate.
The ancient Grail myth teaches us what matters most in life. It asks the vital question, “Whom do you serve?”
It is as simple as this: Are we here to serve our self-centered ego? Or are we here to give ourselves to something higher and greater—to serve Love.
Love is available right now. It is within us. Just the way we are right now is enough. We don’t need to get better. All we need do is accept the gifts of this moment as kindly as possible, and give up our certainty that it’s not enough!
Lovingkindness carries us along in the great waves of God’s intentionality of forward movement. We can align with it at any moment.
We can all become emissaries of love.