He went on to remark that the unloved are dangerous.
Yes, the unloved cause violence.
Anyone feeling unloved experiences a sense of hurt or anger which causes them to isolate, alienating them from others.
When one doesn’t feel part of the whole, their actions are definitely not focused on what would be best for everyone.
Instead they become narcissistic, thinking mostly of themselves, and acting accordingly.
Not receiving the love they need, they believe in lack.
Believing in lack, people do whatever it takes to get their needs met.
The focus is then on getting, which requires some form of grabbing, lying, begging, cheating, stealing or force.
This is dangerous behavior that hurts us all.
So where does healing begin?
We can’t change others. We can only start with ourselves.
We inquire within. Where do we feel angry, hurt, disconnected or alienated? And with whom?
The true nature of the universe is connectedness, as it is one whole and cannot be divided. Quantum physics has shown us this amazing web we all live in.
Because of this Oneness, every action affects others.
There are no purely neutral thoughts or actions.
Wherever we feel hurt, disconnected or angry is a dangerous place — to ourselves and others. Some form of violence will be done, be it subtle, eroding one’s own confidence, or making the evening news.
So what is the nature of this stuff that connects everything and everyone?
According to the renowned scientist, paleontologist, Father Teilhard de Chardin, it is the very nature of the deepest connecting force of the universe. He named it love, the single energy of the universe.
I believe we are all enveloped in the very energy of love. We swim in it. We breathe in it. When we are willing to trust it we can give ourselves to it and always receive back just what we need.
As we give, we receive, just as Jesus told us in such profound words. Giving reconnects us with the All.
Thinking only of the me, and not the we, we don’t give to others. We grab, trying to find happiness. It is very short lived, if we find any at all. And it will end up with more feelings of isolation and despair.
So coming from a place of me, rather than we, we cannot help but act in ways that hurt.
Thinking we are alone is a form of delusion. The we is real. The me is more like a fictional character, useful only for the story line, for a place to initiate action.
As Jesus has said, “Alone I can do nothing.” (That is, nothing that will bring forth peace, contentment and joy.)
We heal from the sense of feeling unloved by being aware of our suffering, the ways we are hurting, and making a commitment to find a way to love ourselves.
These dreadful feelings within us are like a little child who longs — yearns for — attention. For someone to touch him or her with gentle hands, and with soft and caring words.
We are that someone.
We are always with ourselves, unconsciously, or consciously.
One cannot ever be separated from himself/herself, from one’s thoughts and feelings.
Since this is a truth we may as well pay attention to that which we cannot get away from — ourselves!
We can listen to ourselves, to the conversations that go on inside our heads. We can observe what our five senses are doing.
It takes time. It requires patience. But it’s the beginning of healing.
It takes time to undo what violence has done — to clean up the mess.
So, how will we spend our time? Putting out fires, or creating a life of harmony and peace?
I invite you to take this time for yourself and notice how you are feeling and what you are thinking, or saying.
When you find sadness or anger stop and love, really love that child within that feels abandoned. (If you can’t do it at that moment, make a note to do it later. And keep your appointment with your child. Don’t let him or her down.)
Speak to this child. Mentally hold her or him. Softly tell this child how much you care that there is pain and suffering in his/her life. But in spite of this, you are there with him/her.
Your love now touches this precious little being who has been yearning for it.
Your caring makes all the difference.
This is not an overnight cure.
As you tenderly give your love there is no violence, for the energy of love cannot hurt.
The choice is always within us. Will we love or will we turn away and continue to pretend that we are alone, isolated, cut-off, believing the delusion of separateness?
Love heals, harmonizes, inspires and brings together that which has been set adrift.
Love flows through our very breath. It’s never far from us. It’s closer than breathing.