This is especially true when we see things as right vs. wrong. This is where war begins.
Making one side right and the other wrong keeps us stuck in animosity and rigidity where nothing new can come forth.
Imagination is our secret power that can lead us out of this box.
Rather than living in the already drawn conclusions of “this” or “that” we can ask what else could this be? And question our answers.
This means living in the not knowing—the unknown—that uncomfortable place.
Can we, will we, stay in the blurriness of uncertainty and ambiguity until something more desirable than being right shows up?
Life is filled with paradoxes—where more than one thing can be true at the same time.
It all depends on the view—our view. Where are we standing? If we are too close, we can only see what is right in front of our nose. But when we step back, a larger picture opens to us.
There is always more than meets the eye. And what meets the eye is not the whole truth. It can indeed be very misleading.
Uncomfortable as it may be, we need to step back from our judgments into the spaciousness where anything could happen. And then patiently wait for new answers to come forth. We don’t have to figure things out.
This is a whole new ballpark! And it’s filled with paradox that doesn’t divide things up between good and bad, right and wrong. For that is the world of duality.
Personal interests and hidden agendas cause us to see from our point of view only, judging and worrying, trying to get it right.
What is needed is to step into “beginner’s mind” where there are no foregone conclusions because we simply don’t know.
The only thing we can be certain of is our direct experience.
The breath that flows through us right now is a direct experience. It is not a concept or theory. It’s happening right now, inside us. This breath is not something we heard about, or read about in a book.
As we pay attention to these sensations of the body, which we experience directly, not intellectually, the thinking mind begins to quiet itself.
This moves us into the present moment. The breath and the body can only live in the present. From here we can find our way forward.
“Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear.” The Tao
By quieting the thoughts it is possible to notice what comes up from our unconscious. What has been hiding—our old beliefs of wanting things to be a certain way—now reveal themselves.
Our deeper motivations begin to be exposed. We discover what has kept us stuck and unhappy for so long.
Can we wait patiently here and notice when right and wrong begin their war? Can we not take sides?
Can we just listen to both sides, and let them speak to each other?
Oh, how I don’t like hearing words coming forth from someone I have already judged as wrong, even detrimental to society, especially when it’s myself that is getting judged. But if this is what my mind is doing, I need to listen.
Mind is the beginning of everything. Out of our beliefs come our lives. As within, so without.
Dialogue occurs where oppositional points of view come together to birth the new by deep listening.
So I pick up my journal and begin to dialogue with these voices, each claiming they are right. How can that be?
I have not wanted to hear them. But my future depends on it.
My present point of view, my attitude with which I meet this, will bring peace, or more suffering. It’s up to me. Will I dialogue, listen to all voices, or shut them off and distract myself from this discomfort?
So, I sit in this dark and uncomfortable place, and breathe.
I write whatever comes. As long as I am writing in my own journal, and burning pages that would hurt anyone, I won’t be projecting my pain on others.
As more comes, I write.
This practice gives the conscious/thinking mind a rest. It has been struggling for survival trying so hard trying to figure out what is right and what is wrong.
And it doesn’t know.
One of the greatest myths of this century is thinking we can figure things out.
Through quiet reflection, meditation and journaling, I allow space for all opinions so that life can come together in a new way.
Things are always flowing and shifting. Nothing is permanent. Not even problems.
I breathe. I let things be what they are without trying to change what is. Things changes on their own.
I find just listening, sitting with uncertainty and ambiguity without judging whether anyone is right or wrong, is possibly the kindest action I can take.
Webster tells us the word kind means “sympathetic, friendly, gentle, tender-hearted, generous coming from a root meaning of “extended.”
I extend! I extend beyond right or wrong. It usually mean discomfort, but when my intention is to do no harm something new and beautiful eventually unfolds.
I listen, trust, and continue sitting in both the known and the unknown, letting things be what they are. Allow space for imagination.
I remember that life is a great sea of abundance in which we all live, breathe, move and have our being.
When I let life unfold rather than trying to push it into my mold it’s much more pleasant. I feel a new ease. I set about doing what is mine to do this day.
Amazing how things right themselves. And I don’t know how it came about!