The rabbi answered:
“Our hearts must break open so the light can get out.”
When we are hurt and betrayed it is human to develop a protective wall around our hearts. We are deeply wounded. Being afraid of getting hurt again, we do our best to defend ourselves.
So, we build defense systems — walls around our hearts — so that no one can get to us again. We feel too small to cope. It seems to be a protection, but what it protects us against is love. It protects us from connecting. We isolate.
This is a case of mistaken identity. Feeling isolated and separate we feel vulnerable and build walls instead of bridges.
Feeling so vulnerable why would we want a bridge? It would let the “enemy” in.
But by being isolated and self-protected, we keep our light inside. It is well guarded, doled out upon occasion when we choose.
We have forgotten our real nature— the Christ nature.
A more skillful choice is to practice Christ love. It’s always within us, for God is everywhere, always, every minute of every day. By choosing this love, we learn to open in a spirit of generosity and trust.
It is a choice.
The Christ love, or the Buddha nature, gives generously even when it has no assurance that it will get something back. Christ love does not ask for guarantees of return.
There is something so beautiful about this love, for it is an infinite power that receives as it gives. The receiving comes with the giving; it is inherently joined together. We can trust this. It is the reciprocal nature of the universe. It’s nature is generosity.
Christ love is seeded within us. It’s who we really are. But it can only express when conditions are ripe for the blossoming.
Apparently this ripeness comes about more quickly when we are broken hearted, feel the most vulnerable and the least defended.
Life puts us into these places time and again, to help us soften the self-protecting walls we have built. Love can’t express until walls come down.
Brokenness is opportunity.
Breakdown precedes breakthrough.
Today no matter how you are feeling, please know that your light is necessary for someone else. You are in a position to help others, and by doing so, you help yourself.
Are you willing to just open right where you are and let your love come forth? Can you be generous hearted with all those whom you meet? With those whom you think about?
Especially those who you have difficulty with. Here is where your real opportunity exists.
“I say to you, love your enemies, bless anyone who curses you, do good to anyone who hates you and pray for those persecute you.” Matt 5:44
Yes, it is human to want to be bitter and want to hold a grudge when we are hurt. But that attitude of mind just brings more hurt.
Do you want to be right or be free from suffering?
It is divine to give metta — lovingkindness. Perhaps you’d like to use the words the Buddha taught his disciples when they were in fear:
May you be safe
May you be happy
May you be healthy and strong
May you be at ease in your journey in life
All beings want to be happy. Give to others what you desire for yourself. You’ll find it brings rich rewards to everyone. Practice, practice, practice.