It isn’t what happens to us, but how we respond that makes the difference. We can learn new ways of showing up.
Actually fear can be our ally and help us show up differently.
Fear carries opportunity, for it brings us to a fork in the road that gives us a choice about our responses.
Will we act out our fear or anger by aggressive behavior? Or by retreating and hoping we can just disappear — that all this will go away? Which it won’t.
We can decide to show up authentically, as a hero on the journey of life, rather than cringing, making ourselves small by reverting into old behaviors.
As Jung has written, “We all walk in shoes too small for us.”
When we honestly recognize our anxiety, we can stop, pray, meditate and make new choices.
Authentically experiencing all our emotions helps us move into new possibilities. I firmly believe the creative energies of the universe use every emotion and every event to move creation (that includes us) forward, to evolve. Not even a tear is ever wasted.
Fear is hiding something within it. Within the very circumstances that seems so overwhelming there are new opportunities that can benefit everyone.
So, let’s investigate our fears.
My biggest fear is that what I want to happen won’t, and that what is happening is not what I desire to happen. Sound familiar?
So, here is my choice. When I move from what I think should happen to what is actually taking place, I can start the process by naming it “interesting” or “an adventure.” This gives me pause.
It’s called enlarging the field around my expectations.
Here’s a story of what one person did with what others might call a boring, dead end job.
A man was crossing the bridge entering San Fransciso and heard loud music coming from the toll both. He saw a man inside dancing. In amazement he asked him what he was doing.
The toll booth tender replied that he was having a party. The driver inquired why and the man said that he had developed a philosophy, a mythology about his job.
The booth tender explained, “I have a corner office; glass on all sides. I can see the Golden Gate, San Francisco and the Berkeley hills. Half the Western world vacations here…..and I just stroll in every day and practice dancing. This is a great place to be!”
So, what are you unhappy or anxious about right now?
Does life seem meaningless, or difficult, or that you have somehow been left out? Does it seem boring? Is there disappointment?
Does aging imply diminishment? Does it mean growing weaker and losing power? There is another view. Perhaps something really good is in process.
Teilhard de Chardin has discovered (in his profound scientific study of evolution; the way we got here and where we are going) that all loss in the outer results in gain in the inner, or consciousness.
As consciousness evolves it becomes more complex, and thus more interesting, capable of greater things.
If we understood the truth of this we would show up differently in life. Whatever we have lost can become gain. It all depends on how we see. Things are not as simple as we thought.
What is available to you when you look with different eyes?
Mind is the beginning of everything. We live in this Mind. It doesn’t belong to us, but we are responsible for it.
We get to play with it, to use it, to dance within it.
Every minute there is something meaningful to see and to do, something to give and to receive. Mind is filled with infinite creativity and abundance!
It’s all in our showing up — how we respond.
How are we seeing/viewing the present moment? Do we need to hurry through this moment? Does the universe hurry? I don’t believe it does, and if it doesn’t, we needn’t either.
How are we seeing our present circumstances? Are we envious of others? Does we feel jealous of the success of others? Are we judging something harshly?
Do we look back with regret over what has passed away? Or over what we did or said yesterday, or last week?
Let’s allow imagination to enter the scene. Look at our present resources. They are right here within us. There is something that we perhaps haven’t yet discovered because we’ve been rushing past things, so focused on the outer that we are running from “What Is.”
Let’s develop gratitude and the intention to use what we have this minute in more productive ways. Let everything — our fear, our anxiety, our sadness — find harmonious ways to work together.
Breathe. Give everything space within you. Continue to breathe consciously. Give love to yourself. Show up compassionately, for you are a hero on the journey of life. Keep loving yourself for being willing to do the next appropriate thing to do.
All power is in the present moment. Wait and let your heart open.
Ask yourself what you can do right now that would bless others.
I call this dancing with the soul. Nietzsche has said that it is only by dancing with chaos that we will birth a star.
How much forgiveness are we willing to allow, both to others, and to ourselves?
No matter what outer conditions may be, we can always show up in a love-filled, warm-hearted way.
Just show up. Do what is in front of us to do at this moment, with as much kindness as possible and let it be enough.
Grace continues to show up and is present — always. Just look for it!