“This needs to be dealt with, quickly, right now!”
“Don’t just stand there, do something!”
“How could this be happening now?”
“You’ll never get it right!”
Rather than reacting to these and similar pushy, loud voices that act as if they know what is taking place, it’s wise to question their source.
Do these voices come from our past? Our society? Behaviors that we have learned from others?
As we investigate we will also notice that pushy, arrogant thoughts have fear within them. Something is missing. There is the belief in scarcity—of something—time, money, well-being, or of a relationship.
And the louder the voice, the more fear.
It requires patience to question these voices before reacting. But we will be saved from much grief. Using patience is well worth the effort.
All of us are not born with patience, but we can develop it.
There is a common belief that fear protects us. This is not true. Fear would deceive us in thinking so.
Fear can’t protect us for it is based on a false belief.
What saves us is wisdom, and wisdom is born of patience.
When we are wise we look, listen, and discern whether it is safe or dangerous to cross the street.
Patience protects is. We don’t rush into things without examining what we are entering.
It is my experience that each time I act on a voice that comes from fear, I am taken off-course. Fear takes me into places that I had never intended to go, and that lead to dead-ends and sadness.
Fear immobilizes, which at the moment seems like a protection, a place of safety. But it has pulled us tight and small. Our body contracts and so does our vision.
Then anger cries out, for it wants to wake us up from the trance.
Fear and anger are actually housemates, living within the same structure.
Can we, will we, meet these housemates—anger and fear—with patience?
Patience calms the frightened, angry beast inside us; it is as if we are gently stroking its head. We are giving anger what it needs, which is being heard and acknowledged. It can settle down then.
Often we react so fast that we don’t even hear the words, just get the coded message in the form of feelings and emotions.
Patience is needed to investigate these emotions. We learn that they don’t kill us. In fact, emotions pass away as we simply feel them without engaging in the story they are connected to.
Just as the breath passes away, so do feelings and emotions—if we don’t cling to them by telling and retelling the stories they are associated with.
Patience protects us from rash acts, from saying something we wish we could take back and from doing that which causes harm.
Patience gives us time to explore various outcomes, to see which path leads to greater good for all being.
When we take time to look down the road to see the possible outcome of each potential path, we will have a better chance of choosing the one that is more beneficial.
Fear doesn’t protect us; it only pretends to. It tries to protect us, but doesn’t have the ability, for it is based on false evidence.
Truth supports us. Lies cause us to fall through the holes in them.
Truth comes from the powerful Source Energy within us that sustains us. We will know the truth because it is the right thing to do.
Fear speaks so loudly. It yells. It screams! Thus only through patience can we hear that which is greater—the voice of love.
Fear must speak loudly, for it is an imposter. It talks very fast to get attention and distract us from taking time to consider whether it is true or not.
It demands we act quickly; for if we think deeply about where this will take us, and ask what motivates us, we will uncover our hidden insecurities, our belief in scarcity.
This is uncomfortable, thus fear tells us there is a way out. Just do something—quickly.
Sometimes it’s necessary to just stand there without doing something.
Please let me explain that I am NOT talking about emergency situations.
Emergencies do not often take place in our daily lives. They are not the common experience, which is why they make the news!
In life/death situations quick action may be absolutely appropriate. We can delve into the “why” of this event after meeting it as best we can.
I am speaking of everyday life. How do we meet the little-or big-disappointments in our lives? When we cannot figure out how to solve a computer problem, or go along with idea of another at the cost of displeasing ourselves? When money is really tight? Or when it seems impossible to please those who are important to us? Or those mundane times we are caught in traffic?
When we can patiently investigate the feelings and beliefs associated with each disappointment without allowing ourselves to be distracted, we will find each one is based on fear of some type.
There is always enough. Maybe not what we want, but what we need to grow spiritually is always here.
Fear comes from a belief of a “personal stand-alone self” separate from others, where we feel vulnerable and helpless.
Love is the connecting energy that draws us into the great energy field of life that connects us all—the living flow that breathes each of us, leaves none of us desolate, and gives us what we need.
“Greater is He that is within me than he that is in the world.” 1 John 4:4
With this awareness a calmness washes over us and we relax. We open into a more spacious, world where wisdom resides—in the emptiness that is not filled with opinions and beliefs.
Patience is developed. It isn’t born. It emerges through practice.
The world we desire is right here within us; has always been here.
“There is another world, and it’s right here.”