What kind of a world do we desire? Ways of seeing and being that do not harm? This is my choice. Therefore, I must act in mindful ways instead of repeating old habits that cause more suffering.
The world needs healing, and so do we.
How will we respond when we are disappointed, hurt and disillusioned? When our world seems to be unraveling at the seams?
Will we just react from old conditioning, seeking revenge and retribution? This is called blame.
Or are we willing to seek a response that will help alleviate the hurt?
By asking “what will bring wholeness to this situation?” before we act, we are seeking to respond, rather than react.
Our moment by moment choices cause the world to come into being. Our power resides in each choice we make.
It’s important to choose that which brings forth greater meaning, deep satisfaction, and act on these, rather than simply reacting in the old tired ways that have brought about our present dissatisfaction.
Each small choice makes all the difference. It sets a new course for ourselves and the world.
The ability to reflect before acting resides in every human being.
Science speaks of the butterfly effect where a tiny cause on one side of the world creates a huge effect on the other side.
This is not only true physically, but psychologically as well.
In essence we are the butterfly effect.
“The attitude in which we meet this situation will bring either more peace or more suffering” is a truth, for we all live in a numinous energy field which gives back whatever we put into it. Amazing! Awe inspiring!
Our choice of our attitude, moment by moment, is our power, our dominion.
A beautiful and harmonious world does not come about using power to dominate others, but using our power to create health and harmony.
Jesus directed us to do unto others as we wish them to do unto us instead of reacting from “an eye for an eye……..” He instructed us to love and bless our enemies rather than cause harm to them.
This requires a response that comes from a heart of compassion.
Compassionate relationships are equal relationships.
I have found it helpful to begin the day by asking the universe to reveal to me what I need to know and show me what I have been denying.
Each day I restate my intention to do no harm.
Recently when I felt very down in the mouth and reactive, with awareness I stopped myself from casting more blame and judgment on myself, and opened to what was really needed in the situation.
It wasn’t easy to feel the pain without the usual reaction—finding myself or someone to blame.
Instead I asked: “What is the loving thing to do?”
Truly I did not feel loving. But my intention won the day—“do no harm, even to oneself.”
In choosing to let my intention lead the way, rather than my mood, I reminded myself that my thoughts and feelings don’t know enough to lead. Since they continually change they are unstable and can’t be relied upon for true wisdom.
I breathed and allowed things to be whatever they seemed to be at the moment, without jumping into believing the stories I was telling myself.
I reminded myself that every difficulty comes with the larger purpose of helping me grow into a wiser, more caring person.
And each challenge brings just what is needed. There is a world of difference between what our soul needs and what our ego wants.
As Rumi has said, “Be suspicious of our wants.”
These small choices may seem insignificant, as we are only one among the billions of others who are also making choices, but one small change changes everything.
A wise guru once said, “I am here not so much to change the world as to be changed by it.”
Difficulties and challenges help birth humility—the understanding that we really don’t know what is best. Life does. Through responding to each situation, rather than simply reacting, we learn to trust life.
Dr. Carl Jung says that each splinter personality is here to protect, rather than hurt us. That is their purpose. Each of the ways we learned to cope has helped us survive to this point.
But we are not here only to survive. We are here to thrive. Spiritual growth requires a new response.
For instance when the “raging bull personality” rears up within me, I dialogue with it, rather than act on it.
When that “hurry up” personality arises, I thank it for trying to help, and know that what I need now is patience so that I can choose the best response.
Authenticity requires a new creative response which can only come from the unknown, for there has never been a moment quite like this one. Old behaviors won’t work in the present situation.
Expecting ups and downs in life, and not simply reacting by blaming and fearing what might happen, we develop confidence that a choice to bring meet life with an open heart and mind.
We develop soul qualities that bring happiness.
Like Odysseus we are all on an Odyssey—a sacred pilgrimage—that take us into new vistas and new worlds. Everything on this journey is conspiring to help us grow spiritually, including our feelings and emotions.
We need to sit in the quiet, listen and investigate our motives. Reacting from fear creates more fear. What will bring healing?
There is something higher and more beautiful waiting to become, and we are the ones who open the door to receive it!
It’s right here within us.
“You wander from room to room
hunting for the diamond necklace
that is already around your neck.”