What we resist persists.
Since we have refused to meet it, it comes back around to give us another chance. It says something like this: “Take your time, I’ll be here for you, because I have a great gift that will bless you.”
What we refuse to embrace simply goes underground and waits for another time to present itself. And the timing might not be nearly as convenient. It might be best to meet it now.
When we allow things to be the way they are, breathing deeply, accepting what is, resistance drops away. Then, and only then, can something new unfold.
I laugh at the word allow, because the universe doesn’t ask us to sign off on what takes place. You’ve undoubtedly noticed that things happen without your consent.
Sometimes I wish God would check with me before happenings — to get my permission — but no, that’s not the way of life.
So, I’m left with this choice: will I resist — or will I allow what is happening?
Allowing occurs deep within us as we agree not to disagree with what is. It opens up channels so that flow occurs. Then things can pass away and become something else, something more beneficial.
All life aims toward healing. Our minds and bodies are always attempting to heal. Every time we as much as cut a finger, the body rushes in to heal the hurt.
As the Tao says: Everything that flows is healthy.
So am I going to flow with, or resist? My resistance doesn’t keep stuff from happening. So I may as well examine, inquire into, what this resistance is about.
My experience is that the more I can entrust everything into the care of the Great Unknown? (Which is another name for God), the happier and serene I am.
I can suffer or I can allow.
In my edition of Webster’s Dictionary, one of the definitions of the word suffer is “allow, permit, tolerate.”
Am I willing to allow, permit what has or is occurring to take place?
Will I breathe through this situation, and bear it?
How will I hold it in my heart? Am I giving it permission to be?
Or will I continue to resist by stamping my feet inwardly and screaming “No” at the universe?
What will be helpful?
If God allows them, who am I not to?
By allowing, we are not submitting to this thing, whatever it is, to be here forever. For things are always changing.
However, our resistance keeps them in place much longer, for they keep coming back until we receive the lesson that is within them.
So when I desire to be truly helpful I tell myself, “This is the way things are, for me. For now.”
Whatever things may be right now, they are capable of becoming something very different — as universal energy always aims toward healing, toward wholeness.
Allowing everything, expecting nothing specific, becomes a wise way to live.
God leaves no one and nothing out. As Jesus says, “The rain falls on the just and the unjust.”
Things are not personal, but am I taking them that way?
So I continue to open my heart ever wider, doing my best to include everyone and everything — even my hurt feelings — for it is all allowed by God.
Just breathe and include!
Life asks me to dig ever deeper into my motives, beliefs and intentions.
My hardest work is to admit when I am hurt or angry at someone and want to exclude them (or me) from my good will.
Noticing when I am defensive, angry, or frightened helps me to recognize that something new needs to flow. And it starts with me.
What is my desire? I have found the following practice (which the Buddha taught to his followers) is very helpful. In fact, I can’t imagine life without it.
Four helpful phrases can shift us into the space of lovingkindness where we include others into our hearts:
May you, (name of person), feel loved.
May you be happy and contented.
May you be strong and make wise decisions.
May you be at ease on your journey.
I often envision those with whom I share lovingkindness surrounded by their angels which are busy bringing them joy and happiness.
Life is process. Things take as long as they take, and they are always progressing into something else, something higher. This is evolution.
Can I be patient and wait for Spirit to work?
Let me recognize that the Great Spirit of the universe knows how to become, and that my resistance just jams up the flow.
Let me trust this Spirit, because, whether I understand it or not, all things are working for good (as St. Paul declared in Romans Ch. 8).
So, let things be as they are. And know that it’s all in the process of change.
Whatever state things are in right now, they can become something else. All life needs is your love, your willingness to accept what is.
Thank you, God, that Spirit is always becoming matter, and that matter is Spirit.