When unpleasant things occur, do you sometimes think the world is against you, or just plain ugly?
If you have these kinds of moments, you’re taking things personally. And that causes suffering.
I know, because I have taken so many things personally and have felt sad, even devastated at times, when it was really unnecessary. I just didn’t know it.
Over the years I have been greatly helped by understanding that I had choices of my responses.
What is sometimes referred to as the particle and the wave experiment, or the double-slit experiment, has impacted me in a huge way.
In these experiments it was discovered that light acted differently depending on the observer, the one who set the experiment up.
Light became a particle, present in only one particular place at a given time, if there was only one hole for it to flow through. Light particularized into matter which could be measured in time and space.
However if the experiment was set up with more than one hole, light became a wave and flowed through every aperture.
Amazing! Light manifested either locally or non-locally, depending on how the experiment was set up, depending on the observer. (For more information on these ground breaking tests, check on line for the double-slit experiment.)
This astounded scientists. How could light do this?
But it did. Light expresses according to the wishes of the observer, because it is BOTH the particle (the personal) and the wave (the great impersonal).
And the observer calls it into existence, according to the intention of the observer.
Intention creates our reality.
The particle and the wave seem to be opposites, but they are each authentic ways of being “light.” It isn’t “either/or.”
This is called polarity. It is not oppositional, although it appears to be.
And so it is with us. We are light forms in that we are created from the light of the stars, as is all matter.
Thus we can act as if we are a separate formed being, an “I” – or we can relinquish our small sense of self, and flow with that which is larger and greater, the All.
We can become the particle or the wave, depending on our observation, our interpretation and intention, regarding what is occurring.
“If you don’t’ become the ocean, you’ll be seasick every day.”
When we are willing to let go of the smallness of the “self”, (the particle) we don’t take things personally.
We are actually the observer that decides whether it will particlize—or become one with the great ocean of life.
We can surrender into the ALL. We are all part of one great whole, humanity. It’s up to us!
None of us has been singled out as a victim, or the one that always has this (whatever this awful thing is) happening. Yes, admit that we sometimes might feel this way. But this is just stuff that happens to humanity.
We have not been targeted. Life is a school, and we all learn together.
When we ask “Why this again?” we can answer with “It will pass when I have really deeply learned what this is truly about.” And then surrender to that which is great and higher, so that we can be taught!
Or we can go around feeling sorry for ourselves, that somehow we have been victimized. You know what? This sucks!
When we are tired of feeling isolated, and sometimes alienated, we can surrender into the great ocean of life and ask it to carry us along to where we need to be.
Isn’t it wonderful to have choices?
When we want to accomplish something, we must move into the particle state. When we feel separate from others, or downgraded somehow, we can move into the wave.
If our intention is for harmony and lasting happiness, we will notice when we feel hurt, embarrassed or annoyed, or whenever we feel either lower or higher than others. We’ll notice this because we feel a certain smugness.
In these cases we have forgotten the wave.
We feel peaceful when we exist in this wonderful “wave-like” awareness. However if we stay here we will not get anything done.
Even Jesus had to come down from the mountaintop and live in human consciousness. He suffered. And he knew how to return to the great wave of love that is everywhere present and available for everyone.
Living from only one end of the spectrum makes for tunnel vision and rigidity.
Moving back and forth between the two poles appropriately keeps us flexible and results in our flowing with that which is both higher and deeper.
When I find myself worrying I know that I have lost sight of the great ocean in which I live and move and have my being, the very Essence of all that is.
When I think someone doesn’t like me, or approve of me I have a choice of feeling hurt, staying in the particle consciousness, or remembering my true intention.
What I desire with all my heart is that which is best for everyone, and liking or disliking someone or something won’t help me live in the Allness that includes everyone and everything. I need the wave to experience wholeness.
So I do my best to shift into the wave by surrendering and focusing on the breath, the very energy of the universe. The breath is the wave, flowing in and out, always part of the whole.
As I bring these “opposites” together, wisdom arises and I see more clearly what to do.
The Absolute manifests through the particle, and so must I.
The one becomes the many; the many becomes the one. Life continually flows between both poles.
Meditation helps ground us in this great ocean of energy, as it connects us with our Essence, our Reality.
I suggest giving yourself to it and let it carry you.
In this great flow of life we are safe. We are happy and whole, at ease on our journey.
Or as E. E. Cummins puts it:
If you can be, be:
If not, cheer up, and go about other people’s business, doing
and undoing unto others till you drop.
It’s a choice!
And isn’t it wonderful that we are steadfastly loved and cherished whether we take things personally or not. We are in a safe boat. It is the consciousness of love that forever holds us in its heart.