We think of ourselves as a separate self. While all the time, reality is ONE. Nothing can be separate! There are no divisions, only distinctions.
Our belief that we are separate is a delusion.
Feeling separate causes anxiety. Anxiety leads to unhappiness and suffering.
As Wei Wu Wei, a Buddhist teacher, has put it:
“Why are you unhappy?
Of everything you do
Is for yourself -
And there isn’t one.”
In Unity’s major textbook, Lessons in Truth, Emile Cady writes that our unhappiness comes from believing ourselves separate from God. Chapter 1, Liberty or Bondage, Which?
So how do we emerge from this distorted view of our reality?
The Buddha taught three phrases (or denials) to use when one is caught up in anxiety:
This is not me. This is not who I am. This does not belong to me.
Using these three phrases with intention and perseverance can awaken us from our hypnotic state — that of identifying with that someone that our culture and our families mistakenly taught us we were.
For we are not that.
There is only ONE, not two.
No separate beings — it’s all us.
So, each time we place our hands on something, let’s remind ourselves that this does not belong to us, even though we may have the legal proof that it does.
This is not a legal world, and it’s not an illegal world. It’s not the world we think it is.
The isness, the true beingness of all things could never be owned.
Spiritual essence created all and was here before anything was born, and it is what is yet unborn. It is already here and it wants to express itself.
Each time the thought arises, “Well, this is just who I am,” remind yourself, “This is not me. This is not who I am.”
Using these phrases can dissolve old patterns of thinking — of ownership.
When we think we own something we find it begins to own us. For we become tied to whatever we tie ourselves to.
Each time we think of ourselves as doing something — no, we don’t have any ownership of that either. It was the entire universe that accomplished whatever was done. It just developed through us at that instant.
When we think we own something, we suffer. We suffer when it’s taken from us, or someone is critical about it, because we have identified with it in some way. And it’s not us!
What we thought would bring us security nearly always causes suffering.
Letting go of a sense of a separate identity allows us to awaken to true grandeur, and that’s not even what we think it is.
No — not that.
We gently, slowly let self-identity slide away from us.
A continuous practice of these three denials absolves guilt and shame and opens us to a boundlessly friendly universe that pours its heart out to us, giving to us in ever more profound ways.
Love is the single energy of the universe as Teilhard de Chardin states in his amazing scientific treatise on evolution.
Love is energy, and it’s all here, within you and within me. It’s ours to use, but not to own.
“I in them, and thou in me,” as Jesus prayed. John 17:23.
We are so much more than we ever dared to believe!