Fear contracts, pulls itself in, closing us down to the infinite options and possibilities. When we are pulled in tight we cannot see them. Our vision is very limited. It has been called tunnel vision.
A good question to ponder is “Which helps us most, patience or impatience?”
We may not realize that impatience is often habitual, going unnoticed because it seems so normal. Habits are automatic.
We simply get in a hurry without realizing fear is driving us.
Perhaps we notice impatience when we drive behind a slow vehicle, or wait in lines. Or wait for an answer to a text.
Also impatience causes many, many problems, such as forgetting things, really slowing us down, or bumping into walls, furniture or other people.
Impatience often starts quarrels that patience would steer clear of.
Patience can protect us. It is a valuable skill, worth developing.
Patience helps us remember important occasions as wells as keep our commitments.
Patience is the oil that smooths and harmonizes relationships. Love is patient.
Patience is the very opposite of hurry or worry. When we hurry we are afraid there isn’t enough time. When we worry we are fearful that something that we don’t want to happen will, or that we won’t get what we want.
Patience helps us look into the false monster of fear. By taking the time to look closely into the nature of fear we will find its weak spots, and the stories it’s woven from. These are simply stories we tell ourselves. Not the truth.
What is it that we fear? What is it that we think must happen?
Or what is it we think must NOT happen?
Patience is needed to examine the beliefs that lie under these opinions and demands.
This is a work that is not usually rewarded by society.
Our culture sells fear because it’s such a money maker. The marketing agencies haven’t figured out how to package patience, for it’s an inside job.
The cost is the time it takes to breathe deeply, slow down and note what we are telling ourselves about the future. What is it that we are afraid will happen?
As we stop, breathe and accept that whatever is going to happen is going to happen, we might feel ourselves relaxing, letting go.
As we probably know at some level, we are really not in control of events. We can make choices as to how we are going to see and respond, but we have little control of outcomes.
Instead a great truth is that whatever takes place occurs because the seeds for it have been sown and nurtured. Therefore, we can’t stop them for blooming in some form or another. Life is organic.
What we can do—and this makes all the difference—is to realize that everything that is has come to pass. It will only be here in this present form for a short time, and while it’s here we can learn from it.
When we see that trying to push things away and stop some activity only causes more of what we are trying to avoid, we eventually stop pushing away what is already in motion. Instead we stop, breathe and accept things as they presently are. They will change.
We learn to receive.
The universe loves us so much that it’s continually giving us just the circumstances that are perfect for our spiritual growth. Even though it doesn’t always seem that way. Thus the need for patience.
Patience receives what is happening, and waits for wisdom to arise, showing us what is ours to do.
If you want to do something wonderful for yourself, take some time each day to sit still, perhaps even close your eyes, eliminate as many distractions as possible, and just listen. Listen to what you are telling yourself. Then listen to what you tell yourself about your stories.
Deep listening requires patience, and it will protect us from much future sorrow.
Note what your body feels like. Is there contraction somewhere—a holding pattern?
How do you experience this breath— the one that is presently keeping you alive and healing you?
This very precious and amazing breath isn’t trying to sell you something or make you more acceptable or successful. This breath is simply giving you life by filling you with healing energy—that’s all. Just that little thing.
It’s enough. What is here is always enough. The next moment will bring just what is needed also.
In deep appreciation,