Did you grow up with the adage, “If a thing is worth doing, it’s worth doing right”?
I’d like to suggest another phrase that gives more leeway, more spaciousness, so that we can learn from our experiences, and receive all the second chances we need.
“If a thing is worth doing, it’s worth screwing up."
Obviously this does not apply to absolutely everything we do. Some things require a definite, precise skill, such as flying a plane or surgery — things of that nature.
I’m talking about those smaller life decisions we make throughout our moments and days.
Some examples are:
When we talk with someone and feel pretty rotten afterward—perhaps angry or ashamed. At these times we probably think we really messed things up. Or they did.
Or our decisions about money. These can really cause us to feel confused and afraid.
Or how we spend our time. Did we just waste a whole day, or an evening?
Or what we ate today! What was I thinking?
These are examples of all the “little” things that take place all day long that can overwhelm us and cause us to want to give up.
When things seem to fall apart around our heads it’s really important to know that life is always giving us another chance.
In these every day small things we can always try another approach or idea. We can give things another try, and another, and another, until we feel right about them.
We can refine our aim until it hits the target.
Yes, we have all made mistakes, but there is always the opportunity to learn and grow from them and set a new course.
To me it’s obvious the universe doesn’t have to do everything “right” the first time or we wouldn’t have evolution.
If things had been created absolutely perfect and complete there would be no room for improvement, and thus no need to evolve.
The universal energy is love and it’s always evolving, according to Teilhard de Chardin, a renowned scientist and Jesuit Priest.
Teilhard tells us that love is the energy that is always working end evolving into something higher and more complex. And this single energy, love, uses every mistake for something good.
Consciousness grows more complex as it gropes its way forward. It makes mistakes. It goes this way and that way, always seeking a more fulfilling way of being, of expressing.
So it is with our lives. We grope. For we are consciousness. We are conscious beings.
But love gives us another chance — another chance to forgive and create!
Life is process. And it’s gradual. And it’s messy.
Learning takes time. The universe is patient. Evolution is a very slow (and often painful) process. But it never gives up!
So, I encourage each of us to keep our intention directed toward the loving energy that gives each one of us a second chance, and another, and another, and so on.
We may throw someone out of our lives, but let’s learn to keep them in our hearts. It would be a mistake to do otherwise. They and God will work it out.
We are all being loved into something greater. It takes time and patience.