Compost takes a while to do it’s beneficial work. It takes time for garbage to turn into something nourishing. And there’s usually some worms in there.
So it is with our life messes.
Chances are we didn’t intend to make a mess, and are probably surprised when things turned out that way. But how do we handle them?
Do we run away and hope it will all take care of itself? Or do we blame someone else? Or ourselves?
And how’s that been working? If it hasn’t, maybe its time to try a new approach.
How about sitting with the mess and reflecting upon what is going on?
That stings, doesn’t it?
However, I recommend it strongly as a way into a new and more loving relationship with our lives.
When we get honest with ourselves I think we will find worry and fear at the bottom of each of our unpleasant situations. Worry and fear are not loving.
Being present to these unpleasant emotions will probably cause us to feel pain, sadness, embarrassment and confusion.
It’s hard to sit with this stuff!
But will we show up? And keep showing up? Without blaming ourselves or anyone else? Or at least notice when we are into blame? And sit with that, too?
Can we bear looking at what motivates us? Our beliefs and feelings?
Are we willing to hold the tension between what is hurtful and the blessing we desire? Or do we give up and just go with the flow. Whatever seems easier?
Can we stay open to even that?
Are we willing to keep the dialogue going between what the good we desire and the pain that is our present experience, no matter how long it takes?
How are we using our time? How are we showing up?
What is our PQ? Our patience quotient? Or persistence quotient?
“First the blade, then the ear, then the full grain in the ear.” Mark 4:28
Patience and persistence are required if we desire a different outcome, a healing. The universe is always weaving everything together for greater wholeness. This is the nature of life. Life demands that everything be included. Nothing is left out.
The universe knows how to compost messes.
Keep on, my friend. Inquire into those messy situations. Reflect upon them. Meditate upon them. Journal. Pray. Let them simmer on the back burner.
Don’t rush whatever forgiveness is needed. It has to grow inside. Forgiveness happens as we break open and become vulnerable to the universal energy of light and love.
Just stay willing to allow forgiveness to take root in our hearts. The energy of love will do the rest. We’re all in this together. None of us is alone.
Life calls us to this holy work. Life is patient and persevering. And it is always birthing something new.
And I’m willing to bet it will be a surprise and delight, however long it takes!