If you believe the former, than you are a choicemaker.
Love never forces or demands; it offers choices, for it is a two way street. We are co-creators in this very energy of love.
However, if you believe that God is a dictator — perhaps benevolent, but nevertheless a dictator — then you are a victim and have no (or very limited) choice.
It’s easier to be a victim, for victims have no responsibility.
Life is happening to victims and there is nothing they can do about it.
But if God is love, there is always choice. Love is relationship, and allows the “other” to take an active part in decisions.
Love is also the path of greater difficulty, for our choices could be wrong.
“The person who chooses has the torment of choice.”
A German proverb.
There is no easy, effortless way to be sure our choices are correct.
Actions matter. They set causes into motion, and they could be wrong. Nevertheless, we are asked to step out and step up.
Responsibility. There it is again. We can’t dodge that which we find distasteful. It keeps showing up until we handle it.
I believe that no matter what we choose we can’t make a lasting mistake. Life is always leading us upward. Love continually helps us to correct our course — sometimes through pain. Pain can be a great teacher.
But love shows us the possibility of new life.
As we won’t ever be completely sure the best thing to do in any situation, there will be some fear and doubt about our decisions. This goes with the territory.
If ice cream came only in one flavor, say vanilla, we would have no doubt as to our choice. But being aware of all the other flavors, we must choose.
By choosing rocky road, we will miss out on chocolate/peanut butter. And we may find that we dislike rocky road.
Choosing something means the other possibilities are not available, at least for now. Darn!
So it is in life. To be human is to be open to suffering.
The really good news is that by embracing our doubts and fears, we can move forward and gain wisdom.
We learn as we go. Bear in mind that mistakes are only opportunities for course corrections.
No matter where we are or what we have done, we can choose to trust God love to guide us into something higher.
Love is here, right now, helping us onward by correcting our mistakes and showing us a new direction. Love gives us a new ideas. And they will require our responding to them, again making choices.
Will we take on these responsibilities?
Let’s consider these questions:
What is life asking of me right now? Perhaps it’s forgiveness. Perhaps it’s courage.
Will we turn away because of fear, or will we listen for guidance?
When we find ourselves hurting or frightened, we can choose to return to the care and comfort of love. We can hold ourselves as we would a small hurting infant and ask God for help!
We can choose to act in the highest interest of all by listening deeply to the suffering of the world, and choose to give love — to ourselves and everyone.
Give that which you would like to receive.
And keep doing it. Little and often really works!