Wu Wei Wu, a 20th Century Taoist philosopher, says:
Why are you unhappy?
Because 99.9% of the time
you are thinking of the self
and there isn’t one.
We take things personally and get upset because we believe there is a “separate self” and we suffer all kinds of dissatisfaction as a result.
We often say we don’t believe we are separate, but then why would we defend ourselves when we feel threatened?
Why would we get frightened at the prospect of losing something? Or feel sad when our expectations are not met?
Our deep seated belief (stemming from our old reptilian brain) tells us we must protect our territory and grab as much as we can in the process. It tells us our security comes from accumulating as much as we can and defeating anything that gets in our way.
It’s important to ask ourselves where we can find security. Just where does it reside? By aggression and domination?
If we are separate there is reason to try those methods, but if there is only one great, global energy system that includes all life, we have no reason to fight and harm one another. For we will hurt ourselves in the process.
If there is only one, what can be against us or threaten us? A house divided against itself cannot stand.
Therefore I take the stand on the strong premise that there is only One, not two.
And I wholeheartedly believe our suffering can be relieved by discovering that we are really connected and can never be separated!
When we believe ourselves separate we do get serious! We put lots of effort into the pursuit of life, liberty and happiness. We think that enough effort will bring forth happiness. But we are barking up the wrong tree and won’t find answers here.
Perhaps we have been looking through the wrong aperture and need to realize that survival does not come about through the fittest creatures, as was thought, but instead through those who learned to cooperate.
Cooperation implies that we work together. Wholeness by its nature means leaving nothing out.
So it is important to ask ourselves who and what are we not including, or finding someway to cooperate with?
By the nature of our oneness we are connected soul to soul.
Perhaps we don’t want to “dance” with everyone, but we have a deep need to stay connected, heart to heart, soul to soul.
No matter how we feel about others we have the choice of extending love and best wishes for happiness to everyone. We do not need to agree with others, or their way of life to do this.
And our survival depends on it. We can wish others happiness. We can wish them freedom from suffering.
When we “get it” that we are all in the same boat living on this planet together, and that we all affect each other by our thoughts, feelings and actions, we will reconsider our life and remember that we all desire justice and mercy.
In spite of appearances we are really living in a field of living energy. Energy cannot be separated and divided. It all flows together. And amazingly it flows upward, spiraling into something higher, wider and greater.
I believe the very energy of the universe draws us upward into compassion and joy. It breathes us into existence each moment.
This living, loving energy is like the grace of God that brings forth the next breath, and the next step towards a wholesome life for all of us.
Perhaps we might want to really take the plunge by letting ourselves fall into the hands of this energy field, which I call God, and trust the next breath will come to us in the way it needs to, just as our next need will be filled.
So, rather than taking everything, and especially ourselves, so seriously, I suggest we have times of contemplation, meditation and relaxation each day.
Relax. Breathe out and notice that we do nothing to bring the next breath. Our striving for it won’t help.
The breath comes on its own. As do the answers to our prayers. We simply hold up the empty cup, and know that it will be filled by in due season by the grace of God.
For there is only One. We can relax into the loving arms of God, right now! Breathe. This is our choice, and this is what makes us human.
Or as someone has said, “There is only God and we’re not It!”