It can inflate us, which is a problem, because whatever goes up must come down. Deflation always follows an inflation.
Have you ever worked with a significant dream, and think you have understood the meaning?
However much insight you may have received from the dream, I suggest asking, “And what else?”
Then keep your journal ready for more!
It’s always helpful to widen our view to include more possibilities; for therein lies our future.
By gratefully acknowledging the answers we have received, we can still hold our minds open to what else might be on its way to us.
This keeps us from any inflated feeling that we have arrived. For that can only be a delusion. Since the universe is not static, but continually flowing and changing, there is no possibility at “finally arriving.”
Even when we think we have received a full and complete answer let’s bear in mind that we see only a small portion of what is — reality.
In truth those quick and seemingly complete answers often close us off from deeper truths.
Another example of this is when someone offers their expert judgment or advice to our puzzling dilemma. I feel closed down by this, and usually annoyed. Which is why I liked the following quote:
“The only people who have all the answers are those who have not yet been faced with the questions.”
Jo Jo Moyes, The Ship of Brides
Which led me to my shadow (hence my irritation) when others think they have the answer for someone else’s problem. Hey, I have that tendency. I also need to stop and ask, “And what else?” rather than giving them my answer.
I need to listen more deeply. What am I not hearing? What are they saying beneath their words? Deep listening requires silence so that perhaps I’ll be able to truly help.
As I listen more intentionally, without speaking, I can hear differently, can connect in a new way that brings us together, facing life, finding our way through.
None of us is alone. By joining with each other we can truly help each other.
Another reason to ask “And what else?” is the tendency to think things are going to stay the way they presently are. Sometimes we resign ourselves to just living with it and not even attempting to change what cannot be changed.
But everything is always changing. There is no way to keep it the same exact way unless we keep repeating and reliving the same old story.
There is always change underfoot. The present moment influences the next, and so on.
As we develop the skill of calmly waiting we learn to trust the flow of the universe that is always bringing us what our soul needs. (Maybe not what our ego wants, however.)
But what about when I just can’t wait?
This needs to be investigated. What beliefs reside within this impatience? As I do, I will find fear… of something.
I let these thoughts and feelings flow out in my journal.
Even if what shows up is embarrassing, revealing my mistrust and lack of faith, it’s important to stay open and know that more is coming. Trust!
While doing this I hold close this little child within that is suffering. This anxious child needs my support. She longs for it.
I remind her that however things stand now, they will change.
Everything is flowing in a loving field of energy; for that is what God (reality) is.
“This is the way it is for me, for now” is a wonderful truth to integrate into our minds.
And this also: “May my heart/mind open to this experience with balance and ease.”
As I put these truths into practice, I find things have a way of gradually unfolding into greater harmony and more joy! It’s all a process of whatever is becoming something new by bringing together anxiety and faith, letting them communicate, listening to both while staying open to what comes next.
In due season new thoughts ripen.
And mentally speaking, my efforts to push things to change won’t make them ripen any faster!
Ah, it’s possible to just relax and smile, for there is “a table set before us in the presence of our enemies.” (23rd Psalm)
The feast is always here!
Life’s abundance is right here in our lives now, whether we see it or not. In the meantime let’s remember that we can be happy while things are unfinished. We can wait.
“Sitting quietly, doing nothing
Spring comes and the grass grows by itself.” Basbo
In mindfulness, Rev. Billie