Julian of Norwich said in the 13th Century, “All is well, and all manner of things will be well.”
Does that seem unreasonable? Can you agree with her belief of an eventual good outcome? Or are you not so sure?
Perhaps it’s worry that may be keeping you in “hell.”
Where does the attitude—state of mind—of worry come from?
All beliefs are something we learned. But when—and from where?
I believe we learned “how to be and act” from our early caretakers.
We have been conditioned to think in certain ways.
What we believe is not necessarily so. Until we deeply inquire into the nature and origin of each belief, we won’t discover their source or validity.
Our ancestors’ worries got passed on to us. It’s just natural to pass on what you believe. And it’s natural to imitate our caregivers. This is how we become adults.
So this worry state of mind that has been passed down needs to be investigated so we can discover its present usefulness.
Worry denotes anxiety. Within anxiety is impatience. It demands that good things happen now, or very soon!
Worry comes from the root word “to strangle.” (Webster) Does this sound healthy?
If we believed good outcomes were in process we wouldn’t worry, would we?
Do we believe things are getting worse on this planet, or that good outcomes are unfolding?
There are as many opinions as there are people.
Take for instance evolution. What are the facts?
Through scientific methods it has been discovered that each time life on this planet was threatened with disaster, something new and totally surprising took place which caused a more complex form of life to emerge. Who would have guessed? It looked like the end. But life learned how to cooperate and thus bring forth something new.
And I believe this process is still taking place.
When threats occur it doesn’t mean the end. Losses and death leads to new ways of being, new birth. However we go through a period of emptiness before the new is born. We feels lost. We don’t know what is going to happen. All seems empty.
Will we resist the process—or learn to engage it?
It’s similar to a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. This is a metamorphous in which something completely new is born. But it doesn’t look at all like what is emerging.
Jesus said, “Do not judge by appearances.” John 7:24
Regardless of the difficulty, every conflict presents an opportunity—though we often don’t judge them in that way.
What are you facing right now? Can you trust the process of a good outcome taking place—without knowing how or when? This is an opportunity for something new and profound to occur that brings you into a new way of seeing, being and living.
The question is: Will we give ourselves to this turn of events as the caterpillar does? Will we wait on divine guidance?
I find the best I can do is sit with the difficult emotions, breathe consciously, and watch what my mind is doing while waiting for a new idea to come forth.
Mind is the beginning of everything. Mind is totally creative. Will I trust? Or will I worry?
What looks like the end is always the beginning of something new.
When I misperceive what is going on and take things personally, I forget I am connected to the great Allness of everything. I feel lost.
Then I try to figure things out rather than trust the process.
Misperceptions of what is happening and acting on these misperceptions cause wounds that require healing.
So I begin with myself, for it is here that I can make changes. What am I believing about others? About conditions? And about myself?
Whatever it is, it’s just a belief. Let me look closely to see if this belief is useful. Does it bless a situation? Is it helpful? What is my true motive?
I need to own up and take responsibility for what goes on in the dark, shadowy places of my mind—the places that are unknown.
Is my intention to reveal, or to hide?
I’m for revelation! My journal is very helpful in revealing my beliefs (misperceptions) by giving them a voice. Beliefs are brought into the light so that I can see what thoughts have created them.
As I investigate I find where I have deviated from my true values—kindness, mercy, justice and compassion.
Right now I can plant seeds of lovingkindness. I can nurture them with patience, repetition and perseverance.
The nurturing process requires sitting with these difficult states and holding myself tenderly. Wounds need careful attention.
Attention is a form of love. If someone says they love us, but give us no attention, we know these are empty words.
“Divine Love, poured out on any situation, dissolves anything unlike itself.” Charles Fillmore, Co-founder of Unity.
Divine love is an energy. It’s not just a feeling or emotion. Love is that which gathers everything together, includes everything, excludes nothing and moves the whole forward in new and harmonious ways.
This is evolutionary energy.
Thus we don’t have to make things happen. It is love (the energy) that heals and dissolves old states of mind.
Paraphrasing Jesus’ words: “It is the Father within that does the work.”
We need only create the conditions in which love can do its work.
Yes, it takes a seemingly endless amount of time and patience. But do we want a heaven or a hell? What will we trust?
I’m going to trust the 14 billion years of grace that has brought us to this place. It knows how. I don’t.