It’s just part and parcel of being human. We don’t know what the future holds and it’s just plain difficult for the human ego to live in the unknown, between the no longer and the not yet.
Besides which we all have some sense of abandonment to work with. That womb was mighty comfy.
These uneasy, uncomfortable and downright scary feelings need to be brought into awareness—not pushed under the carpet.
Why? Because it is a psychological fact, proven again and again, that what we don’t allow into our conscious awareness and instead try to bury, will come back to bite us in the “you know where.”
And that is painful!
Hidden, submerged feelings have two places to go. One is directly into our cells, arteries and blood vessels, causing the body to stress and become dis-eased.
The second is to project them onto others. We project onto others what we refuse to acknowledge within ourselves. We pretend it’s out there— not inside us. So much more comfortable that way. Until the relationship backfires and we wonder why.
Dr. Carl Jung tells us that what we have buried in the subconscious will most likely come to us as fate.
So it is very helpful to learn how to acknowledge what is taking place within our mind and body, rather than doing our best to ignore it and “soldering on.”
Instead of waiting for fate to descend on us (like that second shoe) we can do something to bring more joy into our life.
Within our mind is power; we influence and participate in future outcomes. Our intentions draw our destiny to us.
“Mind is the beginning of everything”, as Charles Fillmore, Co-founder of Unity said.
The Buddha declared that mind is the forerunner of everything.
It is true that we aren’t necessarily responsible for, nor had any real part in, all that happens. But we are responsible for how we respond to events and interchanges with others.
And this is where we have power.
We can train our mind to become aware of what is taking place in our body as well as around us.
It’s called mindfulness.
Awareness is similar to a laser light that transforms whatever it is focused upon. We can watch what the mind is doing, simply by becoming interested and attending to our mind throughout the day, and night.
When we feel tense (which comes from anxiety) we can breathe it out, let our shoulders drop. We can let go, stop trying to hold it all in and pretend we don’t feel uneasiness.
Trying to hide discomfort from ourselves is like trying to keep a beach ball under the surface of the water. It can’t be done for long and only wears us out.
All things arise and pass away. When we try to hang onto them, we suffer.
What a relief it is to admit that we don’t know all that is happening, and maybe we’re not even close. Sometimes we feel totally in the dark, confused as to what we need to do.
This is not a failure. But the “self” that “thinks it is separate” deems it so. This misguided voice tells us we should know what is going on!
“What’s wrong with you?” it cries.
Thought we can’t accurately predict the future, we do know our bodies, as well as all those we love, are surely going to die. And we don’t know when.
And we can’t read the minds of others with whom we live or work closely with.
I don’t even know what the result will be of the actions I take today, because there are innumerable, infinite other causes and conditions that impact every action.
I can’t even be totally sure of my motivation.
The universe is subtle beyond my imagination. No wonder I have feelings of anxiety! Who wouldn’t?
But I can admit what I am really feeling and thinking. If I’m not honest with myself, I won’t have the capacity to be honest with anyone else.
So I train my awareness in small, everyday moments of paying attention to what the mind is doing. My body will tell me.
We are all interconnected and we influence each other.
All worldly phenomena arise and pass away. They are temporary.
Fear passes; awareness remains.
Our true Essence is Spiritual, and it is our spiritual nature that endures. It doesn’t diminish over time. It doesn’t age, become ill, or die.
Our Spiritual Essence is compassionate and caring.
Awareness of our true Essence can be trained by continually paying attention to what the mind and body are doing.
Awareness is the laser light that never suffers.
We can explore each time we want to hide, not wanting to be seen—when we don’t ourselves or others to know what we are feeling or thinking.
What is our motive? Why are we hiding? Whom do we not wish well? What do we fear?
Whatever we seem to lack is actually something we have refused to give—to ourselves or others.
We can bring our feelings of fear into the light of consciousness and hold ourselves in love. We can give what is ours to give in an appropriate and timely manner.
Just breathe, and know you are breathing! Relax.
We can wish everyone well, for being a human is not easy.
Things unfold in their own way, at the exact moment they need to.
“God is the slowest Being ever to be right on time.” Anon