Getting back up is resilience.
The good news is that resilience can be developed by skillfully meeting these times of woe. Each challenge becomes an opportunity to see things in a way that helps us recover our steadiness of heart and soul.
It all begins with our view.
How do we see life? How do we see ourselves? How do we see others?
Do we feel connected to that energy field which continually nourishes us and all life, no matter the circumstances? Do we know that while some suffering is unavoidable, we have help in meeting it?
Or do we feel separate, totally independent? Do we think we can pretty much control what happens to us as we strategize and figure out solutions?
Wisdom has taught me that I can’t control life, outcomes and circumstances. But I do have a choice in how I interpret all that happens.
We always have choice in how we see rather than clinging to our opinions or limiting beliefs, thinking they are true. Because there is always something we are not seeing and we can open to a larger, more wholesome view.
We can choose to experience our unpleasant emotions as they move through us rather than ignore them. In this way, we bring our light of awareness into the dark wounded places and let light shine onto the pain that has been buried.
This opens our heart/mind to solutions that lead us through that which seemed formidable and perhaps even unbearable. Things pass so that something new can become.
Resilience isn’t “being strong and above it all.” Rather it is learning to cooperate with life instead of demanding that life conforms to our will (for that is truly a lost cause).
When you think back to the hurts and sorrows you have already experienced, you realize you did get through them. At the time, you probably didn’t know why it was happening and wished it would go away. But you lived through it and survived. This has given you resilience.
Perhaps the most powerful thing to recall is that you most likely didn’t do it alone. Someone gave you help along the way — perhaps emotionally, financially, or just cheered you along. Maybe they gave you an idea that helped you find your way through.
I believe our biggest source of resilience is knowing we are connected. At this moment someone, somewhere, is facing something similar to whatever we are experiencing. Knowing this, we can send them love.
At any moment, all we need do is remember to choose love — to connect with others. Love helps us all. It keeps us in the flow of life.
So we can accept what is happening and seek to meet it in new ways of love and awareness.
We get up and begin again.
We learn to appreciate and receive all the love the Universe is giving us. It comes in so many forms — through those we know and those we don’t know. Through a smile of a stranger. Through the breath we are breathing.
Everything we need is here, and we are connected to it. We live in a flow of energy that is empowering us to become more compassionate to each other, for we know we all suffer, and together we can get through it.