The awesome thing is that tragedy, when engaged with spiritual/psychological tools leads to an amazing experience of grace!
Greek tragedies were based upon the idea that human suffering occurred when things went beyond their proper measure. (From The Grace in Dying by Kathleen Dowling Singh)
It seems that the universe has a perfect balancing system. When we get out of bounds, consequences follow. And we must deal with the consequences of our actions.
So what is the proper measure of things? And what does that mean? And who measures?
Paul Levy in his book The Quantum Revelation tells us that measurement is something all humans do. We measure things. We sum them up. We decide who has gone too far and who didn’t go far enough.
We make our judgments. And then we live with them. However it can all change in the present moment as we re-evaluate. We can experience grace in what seemed a tragedy.
Grace appears when we realize that we are doing the measuring. We are the ones who can notice when we get out of bounds. When we are petty and revengeful rather than just and merciful. Not only about others but of ourselves. We can be our harshest critic.
The grace of the situation is that we can always take a new measurement. Our future is not yet determined. Perhaps it is true that all things work for good for those who love God, as Paul stated in Romans 8:28. I strongly believe so.
The next question is, “What is God?” For me God is the One Presence and One Power of the universe that is always bringing forth the good and the beautiful.
Jesus has quoted from the Psalms, “Ye are gods, sons of the Most High.” John 10:34
Yes, we are of the same Essence as God! This makes us creative. Our words, thoughts, beliefs and attitudes create.
We are participators in the creation of this moment.
Do we call it a tragedy? Or is it evolving into an experience of grace. It’s up to us.
How do we measure losses and betrayals?
Each of us has our own measuring system. Our judgments are a form of measure. We do the measuring. When we go too far in one direction, we get off balance and suffer. When we put too much weight on one side of the equation, we forget the benefits and virtues of the other. This causes our lives to be out of balance.
We choose how to see any situation. Unfortunately most of what we “see” is based on conditioning, and therefor unconscious.
Is this moment painful? Does it seem tragic?
We might consider the wise words of Kahlil Gibran from The Prophet.
“(Your pain) is the bitter portion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.
Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility.
For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen.”
And this is grace.
We develop awareness of the ever present grace of God as we allow ourselves to be informed by the many perspectives of each circumstance and situation, thus guiding our judgments.
We measure things according to our view. It is not out of our hands.
Let us open our eyes, our heart and our mind to all perspectives. Jesus taught not to judge by appearances. Something beneath the appearance is always going on. Inquire into our motives and our view of whatever is happening. Why are we seeing it in this particular way? And what are other possibilities? Let’s not act on assumptions but seek more information. Become curious—inquire into other views.
There is always another way to see things.
Suffering and pain opens our hearts in a way that nothing else can. Let it be our teacher. Pain and anguish can lead us into the awareness of the grace of God that is always here, loving us, encouraging us, and accepting us just as we are.
Grace is not separate from us. Grace is the energy of God—the Holy Spirit. It is always moving and flowing. We are breathing grace into our lungs right now. Feel it, experience it, and give thanks for the breath that informs our bodies and minds of this brand new moment filled with all possibilities!