The above quote by Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax might tilt our worldview just a little. Do we think things should be fair? And by what standards do we measure fairness? And what are we expecting that seems perfectly reasonable and logical?
I am reminded of the epic story of the Biblical Job who was so distraught because bad things are happening to him when he has always led such an exemplary life. He was sure he had done everything right.
The story tells us that in time Job developed humility as he came to realize he didn’t really know how the world was run. He eventually understood there was a higher wisdom than his own that moved through all space and time. He surrendered his view of being a victim.
Job finally accepted the great truth that there is a universal energy that he was not on charge of. This Energy knew how to evolve. He understood that God knew and he didn’t. As he surrendered to this great Creative Energy all his losses were restored—plus more.
As we accept life just as it is and give up our expectations and opinions of how things should be, we too can come to realize a greater power than our own is always guiding us in ways we cannot comprehend.
We can feel safe in these all-loving hands (a metaphor for the invisible substance that always holds us). We are intrinsically connected to this power and cannot be lost.
It’s that “giving up” part that takes time, patience, wisdom and commitment.
We, like Job, can develop patience as we continue our dialogue with our Higher Power. By honestly stating our woes and listening to God’s voice (however it comes to us) we also begin to trust reality. We begin to feel our connection to universal energy. We sense that we live and move and have our being in it.
We accept that this is the way it is for now, and it could not be other than it is. And we remember that reality is always changing form and shape.
As we continue to pay attention to what our mind is doing we learn how much we want things our own way. We discover our biases, our blind spots, and our whining, demanding, angry and frightened child within us.
These are all voices within us. Can we patiently listen to each voice? Are we willing to be a caring, compassionate witness who doesn’t try to fix?
Through this process we begin to realize that nothing needs to be fixed. Reality can be trusted. And it has a lot more humor than we do.
A quote attributed to Voltaire says: “God is like a comedian playing to a house that won’t laugh.”
There is much to chuckle about when we honestly listen to our self-created dramas. We are creative. And we are the ones who have the power to let go.
It’s up to us when we will stop defending ourselves and give up the idea that we really know what is best and what needs to happen.
Let’s have a little humility. Universal Energy (or whatever we call God) has gotten us this far. We couldn’t have done it alone.
What’s not to trust?