When our trance ends, the difficult situations dissolve, for we remember that we are truly an integral part of all that is. We can never be left out, abandoned, for the very Spirit of the universe is re-creating us each moment, with every breath.
Therefore perhaps it really is true that the way we see the problem is the problem.
Webster defines trance as a stunned condition; daze; stupor.
Obviously we cannot think clearly in a daze or stupor. We simply act in a robotic manner, forgetting our true nature as spiritual beings having a human experience. We thought we were “just human.”
So let’s look at some of the trances we might fall into when we forget or have lost sight of what is real.
Perhaps self-pity is a trance. And anger. And fear.
In the daze of these trance states we often blame others, thinking someone or something outside of us caused this and we are simply victims.
How could we be a victim when we have the power to create new neural pathways in our brain, and thus move into new and more wholesome directions?
We choose how we view whatever we are looking at. Victims have no choice. Therefore we are not victims.
By realizing the great power of the heart/mind, we can transcend these states. This takes time and effort. It cannot be forced. We can love ourselves into new ways of being, but not demand that we change.
We have the power to create new, harmonious conditions through lovingly choosing to stay open to what we are resisting, to that which we don’t want to look at or feel.
Instead of closing up or running away, we can turn and face our fears.
Anxiety is a fact of life. Living in the midst of constant change and impermanent conditions causes anxiety and suffering—until we begin to allow—until we develop trust in the integrity of the system.
Our wanting things to be different doesn’t change them. We may rearrange the deck chairs on the Titanic but it is still aimed toward that iceberg that is below the water.
Until we face what lies submerged in our subconscious by learning the skills of mindfulness, we will find ourselves experiencing the same thing over and over. It is as if we live in a trance doing the same things over and over. We would be slightly crazy to expect the results to be different. I would call that a dazed condition, or a stupor.
There is another way! Trusting universal energy and working with what is rather than blaming or fighting what we are afraid will happen brings forth a new way of living.
A phrase I repeat over and over for myself and others is:
May I/you live in ease and kindness.
This brings kindness into each moment as I remember.
Kindness causes our thinking to shift. Kindness develops new neural pathways in our brain. Thus we think and act in different ways and the trance ends.
Kindness is the warmth that causes old hurts and wounds to heal. For it is love.
To love is to have a welcoming view, a kind attitude, rather than judging ourselves and others.
Jesus has taught that “As we give, we receive.” Luke 6:38
We all desire well-being, health, respect and love. Will we give this to others? And to ourselves?
Will we creatively look for a way to be part of the solution, rather than the problem?
When the trance ends, we see clearly.
We see that each of us is God’s beloved. And that impermanence is a fact of life.
As we learn to trust that which is constantly changing and evolving, we act differently.
The universe knows how to become. Our world has been evolving for about 14 and ½ billions of years.
Let’s trust the integrity of a system that continues to spiral upward—that uses everything for growth!
Let’s accept what is rather than fighting it or running from it.
As we allow things to be the way they are, a calm moves through our heart and mind creating space for new ideas. For we have stopped arguing with what is. The losing battle has ended. For we lose each time we fight reality!
And the old trance ends.
As we give mercy to ourselves and others, something new and beautiful takes place. This does not mean that each of us will not be held accountable for any misuse of our power. For we are accountable.
Accountability is not punishment or judgment. Accountability requires making amends and shifting from blame and retaliation. It requires apologies and forgiveness, new ways of speaking and acting.
We can connect (rather than disconnect) by deeply listening to ourselves and others. We learn to work with the universal energies of love that are always flowing everywhere. They are invisible and cannot be grasped.
We learn to simply let go (of our stubborn viewpoints, our opinionated attitudes) and flow with the reality (not our opinion about it) of the moment.
Let’s remember that none of us knows the answers. It’s only by coming together and caring about each other’s wounds that the raw and sore places can be healed.
For each of us is a part of the whole. Nothing and no one is left out. Love flows through each particle, each being.
Love is the healer—the Source!
Wounds heal when they are treated with kindness, with gentle attention and deep caring.
We begin right where we are by bringing kindness to this moment, to this thought, to this emotion. And we do it again and again.
Little and often.