By speaking these words mindfully we will also become aware of what we still haven’t accepted, but are perhaps just tolerating because we feel helpless to do anything about them.
Just speaking these words to ourselves, asking “Is this true?” is a powerful step in awakening to what is really going on within us.
I’ve become aware how often “What I have is what I want” doesn’t accurately describe my thoughts and feelings.
But it certainly prods me into noticing what is taking place in my mind. The gap between the way “it is” and the way I would like it to be becomes very apparent.
Knowing my present position is vital information to help see the areas in which I am stuck.
Our mind creates our experience of life showing us where we are clinging, hoping, wishing, wanting, and avoiding. When we carefully look into this chamber of creativity—our heart/mind—we can see our hurts, wounds, joys and the places that need healing.
As Woody Allen quipped, “An unexamined life may not be worth living, but an examined one is no great bargain either.”
Yes, this is effort. It’s not always comfortable, and it is definitely inconvenient.
Recently I received a greeting card that read:
Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
As I watch my mind I’m embarrassed to admit how often I find myself wishing things were different and subtly (or not) blaming someone or something because they aren’t. These attitudes have become habits of mind.
It’s not easy to let the feeling of embarrassment be whatever it is without trying to hide it or change it. Just watch it, feel it, breathe, and note what else comes up. And feel that; and the next thought or emotion. Just watch without becoming entangled in them.
Or I find myself worrying. Another habit. It doesn’t matter what the situation is, I often place the template of worry on top of whatever the circumstance may be. I also notice this as I watch my mind.
These habits are obstacles that keep me from what I truly desire: serenity, equanimity, contentment.
The path to that which I seek is awareness of what the mind is doing, watching closely to see when I take sides or argue with what is, resisting the present circumstances.
If I want equanimity, I must see what is blocking it.
So it is with each of us.
This is the way things are. Whether we like it or not the way things are is the only way they could be at this moment, for particular conditions and circumstances have arisen that have become the present harvest. Our world is organic. Seeds were planted and now they have grown.
This is the way it is. Whether we accept it or not, the facts are the facts. The conditions are the conditions.
And they will change. In fact they already are in process of change.
Change is the nature of the universe. We can’t stop it. Hanging on doesn’t help.
So, are we willing to accept that this is the way it is? Or do we feel resentment? If so, we are not accepting what is.
We couldn’t be here, exactly as we are, in the present position of creating something new if it weren’t for the way it has all taken place. It needed to happen this way or it wouldn’t have done so.
How much are we going to argue with reality?
As Byron Katie says, “When we argue with reality, we lose. But only every time.”
So when I can come to a sense of agreement with the way things are, I can move into what needs to happen next.
I find answering these questions help:
- Am I willing to ask the universe to reveal the next step? And wait patiently for it to be revealed?
- Will I trust the universal energy that is flowing and becoming? It is obvious that it knows how to evolve as it has been doing so for 14 billion years.
- Will I accept that there is an energy of love (much different and greater than human love) that holds everything together and moves it forward? And that I am a part of this love?
We have evolved into these awesomely unique reflective beings (the only ones we know of in the universe!) created to express wisdom and thus bring more light into the world.
“And God said, “Let there be light, and there was light.” Genesis, Chapter 1.
We can choose to hear the soft, still voice that sings us into a new expression as we do our work in becoming aware. This is love.
What we have is what we want. Or is it? Ask yourself.
“What is” will ripen into the next moment—which can also be just what we really wanted—and open to the next moment which wants to become.
Let it be!